Intercourse in the back passage

 

During my period my husband asked me to let him rub the head of his erect penis against my anal sphincter so that he could feel pleasure until he ejaculated. Is this permissible in Islam?.

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly: 

The fuqaha’
are agreed that it is haraam to have intercourse with a menstruating woman
in her vagina, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“keep
away from women during menses and go not unto them till they are purified
(from menses and have taken a bath).”

[al-Baqarah 2:222] 

And the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Do
everything except intercourse.” Narrated by Muslim (455). Al-Nawawi narrated
that there was consensus on this point. 

Secondly: 

It is haraam
to have intercourse with a woman in her back passage, because Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning): 

“And when
they have purified themselves, then go in unto them as Allaah has ordained
for you (go in unto them in any manner as long as it is in their vagina)”

[al-Baqarah 2:222]  

i.e., in the
front passage, which is the place of tilth. This is confirmed by the verse
in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“Your
wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth, when or how you will”

[al-Baqarah 2:223] 

The back
passage is not the place of tilth. 

There are
ahaadeeth which indicate that it is haraam to have intercourse with a woman
in her back passage. It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be
pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) said: “Cursed be the one who has intercourse with his
wife in her back passage.” Narrated by Ahmad and Abu Dawood (2162); classed
as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood. 

See also
question no. 1103. 

Thirdly: 

The scholars
have stated that it is permissible to enjoy that which is between a woman’s
thighs and between the buttocks, without penetrating the back passage. 

Imam
al-Shaafa’i said in al-Umm (8/257): 

With regard
to enjoying what is between the buttocks without penetrating, there is
nothing wrong with that. End quote. 

Ibn Qudaamah
said in al-Mughni (7/226): 

There is
nothing wrong with enjoying that which is between the buttocks without
penetrating, because the Sunnah forbids the back passage, and applies only
to that. And it is haraam because it is harmful, and that applies only to
the back passage, so the prohibition applies only to that. End quote. 

It says in
Rawd al-Taalib:

What the
husband is allowed to enjoy of his wife: 

He may enjoy
everything except her anal sphincter, even that which is between the
buttocks. As for enjoying the anal sphincter it is haraam to have
intercourse there, because of the report which says: “Allaah is not too shy
to tell the truth; do not have intercourse with women in their back
passages.” Narrated and classed as saheeh by al-Shaafa’i. End quote. 

It says in
Asna al-Mataalib (3/185): 

The words
“As for having intercourse in her anal sphincter…” – such as if part of the
tip of the penis disappears into it. End quote. 

Based on
this, there is nothing wrong with what was asked about, subject to the
condition that there be no risk of the tip of the penis or part of it
entering the back passage, for that is haraam. 

And Allaah
knows best.