Teaching the Child Islamic Rules Regarding Puberty

 

When the child reaches puberty, he
becomes fully accountable for his deeds in front of Allah (SWT).
It is first and foremost the responsibility of the parents to carry
this message to the child.

The parents of the adolescent boy
should inform him that the first time he ejaculates he becomes accountable
for his actions in front of Allah (SWT), and he should perform the
acts of worship in the same way that adult Muslims do.

When the girl is about nine years
old, her parents should inform her that the first time she sees
blood (menstruation), she becomes accountable for her acts and the
worship acts prescribed on the Muslim women are also prescribed
on her.

When the child reaches puberty, there
are rules that the parents should explain to him, which include:

• If the child has a sexual dream,
  he does not have to take a bath (ghusl) unless he sees or feels
  wetness in his clothes or sheets due to sperm ejaculation in the
  case of the boy, or vaginal discharge in the case of the girl
  (the type of viscous discharge that commonly occurs after a woman
  has had orgasm). Such was the answer of the Prophet (SAW) to Khawlah
  Bint Hakeem, who asked him if a woman should make ghusl when she
  has a sexual dream. He (SAW) said:

"No
ghusl on her unless she has a discharge,

similarly there is not ghusl on the man unless he ejaculates."

[Related by Ahmad and Al-Nasa’i]

• When the child wakes up and sees
  or feels wetness due to sexual discharge, he/she should perform
  ghusl even if he/she did not remember having any dream.

• When the boy ejaculates due to
  sexual arousal, whether voluntary or involuntary, he should perform
  ghusl. The same rule applies for the girl if she had an orgasm
  or vaginal discharge.

• Young men and young women who
  are about to get married should know that during sexual intercourse,
  as soon as penetration occurs they both should perform ghusl whether
  there was discharge or not. The Prophet (SAW) said:

"When he sits
between her arms and legs, and the two organs touch, and his organ
disappears (in her), there should be ghusl, whether he ejaculated
or not." (Related by Muslim)

• When the girl does not see any
  more blood at the end of her menses, she should perform ghusl.
  The married woman should know that after child birth she should
  make ghusl as soon as she stops bleeding. The next step is obviously
  to teach the child how to perform ghusl and the Sunan acts of
  ghusl. He or she should know the acts that are unlawful to him
  or her while in a state of sexual impurity. These include:

• During menstruation, or after
  birth bleeding, a woman is forbidden to pray, fast, enter a mosque
  unless passing through it, make tawaf (i.e. circumumbulate the
  Ka’bah or have sexual intercourse, for Allah (SWT) says:

"They ask you concerning menstruation. Say: that is an Adha
(a harmful thing for a husband to have asexual intercourse with
his wife while she is having her menses), therefore keep away from
women during menses and go not unto them until they have
purified (from menses and taken a bath)..."


[Al-Baqarah 2:222]

• Men and women who are in a state
  of sexual impurity (janabah) are prohibited from reading the Quran
  or touching it before making ghusl. It is not recommended to read
  the Quran or touch it before ghusl. The Prophet Muhammad (SAW)
  used to recite the Quran under all conditions except when he was
  in a state of Janaba that is after having sexual intercourse when
  it was necessary for him to take a bath. They are also forbidden
  to pray, enter the mosque, or make tawaf.

• The child should learn to inspect
  his/her clothes and keep them clean from sperm (or vaginal discharge),
  or in fact, any liquid discharge from the sexual organs.

There is NO evidence
whatsoever that says that a woman who is on her period or a woman
who is having post-natal bleeding that she can not touch the Qur'an. 
See The Natural Blood of Women (by Dr, Ameenah Bilal Phillips)
for evidence.