I have a sister whom I don't like. We have not been on good terms for quite some time and I really don't like her. I say Salam and I try to be polite when I speak to her I avoid being around her or talking to her for too long. Is this considered a sin?.
What the Muslim should do is refrain from bearing any hatred
or resentment in his heart towards his fellow Muslim. Allaah says of His
believing slaves (interpretation of the meaning):
“And those who came after
them say: Our Lord! Forgive us and our brethren who have preceded us in
Faith, and put not in our hearts any hatred against those who have believed.
Our Lord! You are indeed full of kindness, Most Merciful”
According to a hadeeth narrated by Anas ibn Maalik (may
Allaah be pleased with him), the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah
be upon him) said: “Do not hate one another, do not envy one another, do not
turn your backs on one another, and be, O slaves of Allaah, brothers. It is
not permissible for a Muslim to forsake his brother for more than three
days.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5718; Muslim, 2559.
Ibn ‘Abd al-Barr said: His saying “Do not hate one another”
is a prohibition which is aimed at encouraging them to discipline themselves
to love one another. Al-Istidhkaar, 8/289.
But a person may feel that he does not like a person enough
for him to become a close friend, even though he fulfils his Islamic duty of
returning his salaams, saying “Yarhamuk-Allaah (May Allaah have mercy on
you)” if he sneezes, helping him if he needs help, and so on. In this case
what exists between them does not come under the heading of forsaking or
shunning, and it is forgiven in sha Allaah. According to a hadeeth narrated
by ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her), the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Souls are
troops collected together and those who got along with one other (in the
realm where souls existed before entering physical bodies in this world)
will have an affinity with one another (in this world) and
those amongst who did not get along with one another (in the realm
where souls existed before entering physical bodies in this world) will also
not get along (in this world).” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 3158; Muslim,
Al-Khattaabi said: This may be understood as referring to
similarlity between souls which are either good or bad, righteous or
immoral, and that good people are attracted to those who are like them and
evil people are likewise attracted to those who are like them, so people’s
souls recognize one another according to their nature, whether good or evil;
if they are similar they will get along and if they are different they will
not get along.
Al-Qurtubi said: Although souls have in common the fact that they are all souls, they differ in other ways. Souls of similar nature will get along because of their nature. Therefore we see people of a certain type get along, but they do not get along with people of a different nature, and we see that with people who are of a similar nature, some of them get along with one another and some do not, and that depends on the issues which form the basis of getting along or otherwise.