Thursday, 30 June 2011

He talks to women and looks at promiscuous sites on the internet, and his wife objects

He talks to women and looks at promiscuous sites on the internet, and his wife objects
I am a married man with a conservative wife, praise be to Allaah, and I am a muezzin in one of the mosques, but I waste my time on the internet with things that are of no benefit. Sometimes the shaytaan tempts me and I look at promiscuous programs, and sometimes I talk to women using voice, and sometimes sleep overwhelms me and I miss an obligatory prayer. When my wife advises me I get angry with her and there are problems between us. I repent to Allaah from all that I have done, then I go back to it again, and my wife advises me, then the problems begin again. 

What do you advise me to do? What should my wife do with me? May Allaah reward you with good.


Praise be to Allaah.


If the
matter is as you describe, and you waste your time on the internet with
things that are of no benefit, and that lead you to sin, by watching
promiscuous programs and talking to non-mahram women, and sleeping and
missing obligatory prayers, and neglecting your work, there is no good in
your going on the internet, rather it is haraam for you to go online if the
matter is as you describe. One of the basic principles of sharee’ah is to
block the means that lead to evil; so every means that leads to something
haraam is itself haraam. 

What you
have mentioned about how you are with the internet is a lesson to others who
are take this matter lightly, and they give free rein to themselves, their
families and their children, and do not wake up until it is too late. 

We praise
Allaah for having blessed you with a righteous wife who will remind you and
help you to do good, and who has alerted you to the danger into which you
have fallen. This question of yours points to the goodness that is in your
heart, for the living heart is the one which is pained by the wounds of sin,
as it is said: The dead feel no pain.  


What you
must do is hasten to repent to Allaah, and regret what you have done in the
past. Give up the internet altogether, for time is the most precious thing
that a man possesses, and the means that lead to haraam must be given up.
Keep yourself busy with reading Qur’aan, attending lessons and keeping
company with righteous people, and you will find that which will bring you
happiness, joy, pleasure and peace of mind. No one sets right the
relationship between himself and his Creator but all his affairs will be set
straight. See also the answers to questions no.
26985 and


You should
appreciate your wife and keep good company with her, and honour her more,
because her sincere advice to you and her denouncing (your bad deed)
indicates that her love is sincere, and that she is righteous and fears

She has to
carry on advising you, and help you to give up this sin, and keep away from
it, so that your life together will be good. 

We ask
Allaah to guide you both. 

And Allaah
knows best.

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