Thursday, 30 June 2011

His wife’s family stipulated that he has to become rich before they will send his wife and children back to him

His wife’s family stipulated that he has to become rich before they will send his wife and children back to him
I am suffering from many problems with my wife’s family. I married their daughter thinking that they were religiously committed, then I found out that they adhere to customs and traditions (rather than religion). They took my wife from me by force and I am have no power or status in this world, there is no power and no strength except with Allaah. She gave birth in their house and now they do not want to send my daughter or my wife back to me unless I become very rich. Please note that they have given my wife the choice between going with me and they will be angry with her, or staying with them until I become rich. My wife knows that I am in the right and they are in the wrong, but they are following their ways. What should I do according to Islam?.


Praise be to Allaah.


The wife has
no right to go out of her husband’s house without his permission, and her
family have no right to help her or encourage her to do that, because her
leaving and not returning constitute disobedience towards her husband and
rebellion against him which makes her guilty of nashooz (wilful defiance). 

Their taking
their daughter away is another act of wrongdoing, and their stipulating that
you must become very rich before they will return your wife to you is
wrongdoing upon wrongdoing. They have no right to do any such thing. When
they accepted the marriage and the marriage contract was done and the
husband paid the mahr, they were obliged to hand the wife over to the
husband, so how about when she was with him and had borne him a child! 

You do not
say anything about your financial situation, and whether you have enough to
spend on your wife or not. Are you hard up or do you have enough to spend on
yourself and your family?  

The majority
of scholars are of the view that the husband’s inability to spend on his
wife is sufficient grounds for separating them, if the wife requests that.
But if she accepts it and does not ask for separation, then no one has the
right to separate them. See al-Mawsoo’ah al-Fiqhiyyah (5/254 and


You should
take the following steps to get your wife back: 

Reconcile between yourself and
Allaah, may He be exalted, so that you can reconcile between yourself and
other people.

Ask Allaah to divert harm from
you, and to suffice you against the evil of all evildoers.

Try to reach an understanding
with your wife’s family and find out what their attitude really is. They may
have other reasons apart from the issue of wealth.

Appoint religiously committed
and righteous people to intervene and advise them, and explain to them the
seriousness of their wrongdoing and aggression.

Refer the matter to the courts,
to have your wife and daughter returned to you. 

We ask
Allaah to make things easy for you and to help you to do that which He loves
and which pleases Him. 

And Allaah
knows best.

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