Ruling on women spending of their own wealth without their husbands’ permission

 

I am a working woman, and I have a
salary from which I spend on myself and my home, I give some to my family and I give some
in charity, and so on. Many of the arguments that I have with my husband arise because of
the way I spend my money. Does my husband have the right to object to the way I spend my
money? Do I have to ask for his permission when I want to spend any of my money?

Praise be to Allaah.

Undoubtedly the free adult person who is of sound mind
and discernment is permitted to dispose of his own wealth with no restrictions as long as
he is alive, whether he is buying, renting, giving a gift, establishing a waqf (endowment)
or any other kind of transaction. There is no dispute among the scholars on this point.

There is also no dispute among the scholars concerning the fact that
the husband does not have the right to object to the way his wife handles her wealth in
transactions such as buying, renting, etc., if the woman is of sound mind and there is no
reason why she should not handle her own money and she is not one of those who may be
tricked. (Muraatib al-Ijmaa’ li Ibn Hazm, 162; al-Ijmaa’
fi’l-Fiqh al-Islami, Abu Habeeb, 2/566).

But the scholars differed as to whether a woman has the
right to give all or some of her wealth in charity or as a gift without the permission of
her husband. The details of their opinions are as follows:

The first opinion:

The husband has the right to prevent her from giving if the amount is
more than one third of her wealth, but he does not have this right with regard to lesser
amounts. This is the opinion of the Malikis and Hanbalis, and one of the two views
narrated from Ahmad. (Sharh al-Khurashi, 7/103; al-Mughni, 4/513; Nayl
al-Awtaar, 6/22). The evidence for this is reports and qiyaas
(analogy).

Among the reports referred to are the following:

The report that Khayrah, the wife of Ka’b ibn Maalik, came to the
Prophet with some jewellery of hers. The Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) said: “It is not permissible for a woman [to dispose of] her wealth without the
permission of her husband. Have you asked Ka’b’s permission?” She said,
“Yes.” So the Messenger of Allaah
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
sent for Ka’b ibn Maalik, her husband, and asked him, “Have you given permission
to Khayrah to give her jewellery in charity?” He said, “Yes,” so the
Messenger of Allaah
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) accepted it from her. (Reported
by Ibn Maajah, 2380; its isnaad includes ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Yahya and his father, who
are majhool (not known, i.e., not enough information is known about them to ascertain
whether they are trustworthy)).

The report narrated from ‘Umar ibn Shu’ayb from his father
from his grandfather that the Messenger of Allaah
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) said in a khutbah (sermon) he gave: “It is not permissible for a woman to give
anything except with the permission of her husband.” (Sunan Abi Dawood,
Buyoo’, Baab 84; Sunan al-Nisaa’i, Zakaah, Baab 58; Musnad Ahmad,
2/179; Sunan Ibn Maajah, 2/798). According to another version:
“A woman has no right to her money if she is married.” (Reported by five,
except al-Tirmidhi).

These reports are taken as evidence that a woman does
not have the right to spend her money except with her husband’s permission, which
means that the husband’s permission is a condition any time she wants to spend; his
right to stop her spending is limited to amounts over one-third of her wealth, because
there are reports that indicate that the owner has the right to dispose of one-third or
less of his wealth in his will, but he does not have the right to dispose of more than
that without the permission of his heirs. This is seen in the famous story of Sa’d
ibn Abi Waqqaas, who asked the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) if he
could give all of his wealth in charity, and he said, “No.” Sa’d asked,
“What about two-thirds?” The Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) said, “No.” Sa’d said, “What about half?” The Prophet

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “No.” Sa’d said, What
about a third?” The Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said,
“[Yes,] a third, but a third is still a lot.” (Agreed upon)

With regard to their using qiyaas (analogy) as evidence,
they say that the husband’s rights are connected to the wife’s wealth, on the
basis of the hadeeth: “A woman may be married for her wealth, her beauty or her
religious commitment.” (Reported by the seven scholars).

Usually a husband increases his mahr because of the
wife’s wealth, and he will be able to spend her money, and if he cannot afford to
spend on her, she will not complain (because she has her own money). This is similar to
the rights of heirs in relation to a sick person's wealth. (al-Mughni,
4/514).

The second opinion:

The husband has the right to stop his wife from spending in all cases,
whether it is a small amount or a large amount, except in the case of insignificant
things. This is the opinion of al-Layth ibn Sa’d. (Nayl al-Awtaar,
6/22).

The third opinion:

The woman is not allowed to spend anything of her wealth at all, except
with the permission of her husband. This is the opinion of Taawoos (Fath al-Baari,
5/218). Ibn Hajar said in al-Fath, and Taawoos used as evidence, the hadeeth of
‘Umar ibn Shu’ayb, “It is not permissible for a woman to give anything of
her own wealth except with the permission of her husband.” This was reported by Abu
Dawood and al-Nisaa’i. Ibn Battaal said: “The hadeeth narrated in this chapter
are more sound.”

The fourth opinion:

The woman has the right to spend her own money in all circumstances,
whether in a transaction or otherwise, whether this involves all of her wealth or part of
it. This is the opinion of the majority, and is the opinion of the Hanafis,
Shaafa’is and Hanbalis, and of Ibn al-Mundhir. (al-Mughni, 4/513; al-Ansaaf,
5/342; Ma’aani al-Athaar, 4/354; al-Baari, 5/318; al-Awtaar,
6/22).

This is the soundest opinion, and is most in accordance
with the Qur’aan, the Sunnah and common sense.

In the Qur’aan, Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And give to the women (whom you marry) their Mahr (obligatory
bridal money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) with a good heart,
but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, take it, and enjoy
it without fear of any harm (as Allaah has made it lawful).”[al-Nisa’ 4:4]

Allaah allows the husband to take what his wife gives him
willingly.

Allaah also says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And if you divorce them before you have touched (had a sexual
relation with) them, and you have appointed unto them the mahr (bridal money given by the
husband to the wife at the time of marriage), then pay half of that (mahr), unless the
women agree to forego it…”[al-Baqarah 2:237]

Here Allaah allows women to give up as much of the mahr as they
wish if their husbands divorce them, without them having to ask permission from anybody.
This indicates that women have the right to decide what to do with their own money, and
that a woman has rights to her wealth just as a man has rights to his wealth. (Sharh
al-Ma’aani al-Athaar, 4/352).

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And try orphans (as regards their intelligence) until they
reach the age of marriage; if then you find sound judgement in them, release their
property to them…” [al-Nisa’ 4:6]

This clearly means that when the female orphan becomes wise and
discerning, she is allowed to handle her own wealth.

Similarly, when the women gave their jewellery in charity after the
Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) had addressed them during his Eid
sermon, this was an indication that they are allowed to dispose of their wealth without
asking permission from anybody.

(See Ittihaaf al-Khilaan bi Huqooq al-Zawjayn fi’l-Islam
by Dr. Fayhaan ibn ‘Ateeq al-Mutayri, pp. 92-96).

It says in Nayl al-Awtaar: “the majority of
scholars agreed that women are allowed [to handle their own wealth] with no restrictions
and without having to ask their husbands’ permission, so long as they are not
foolish, but if they are foolish, it is not permitted.” It says in al-Fath:
“The majority have a lot of evidence in the Qur’aan and Sunnah.”

The majority of scholars argued against those who used as evidence the
hadeeth “It is not permissible for a woman to give anything except with the
permission of her husband.” (Reported by Abu Dawood, 3079; Saheeh
al-Jaami’, 7265; some of its narrators have already been mentioned). The majority of scholars said that this has to do with the good manners and
proper etiquette required of the wife because of the rights her husband has over her, and
because of his status, experience in life and wisdom. Al-Sindi said in his commentary on
al-Nisaa’i with regard to the hadeeth quoted: “According to the majority of
scholars, this has to do with good manners and making the husband feel good.” It was
reported from al-Shaafa’i that the hadeeth was not proven, so how can we use it as
evidence when the Qur’aan, Sunnah, other reports and common sense indicate the
opposite? Maymoonah freed a slave before the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him) knew anything about it, and he did not tell her off. This and other reports
indicate that if this hadeeth is true, it is to be interpreted as being the matter of good
manners, and the wife has the option either to ask her husband’s permission or not.

So the Muslim woman is encouraged to seek her husband’s permission
– but it is not obligatory for her to do so – and she will be rewarded for doing
that. Abu Hurayrah said: “The Messenger of Allaah
(peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him) was asked, ‘Which woman is the best?’ He said, ‘The one who makes
[her husband] happy when he looks at her, who obeys him when he tells her to do something,
and who does not oppose him in a manner he dislikes with regard to herself and her
wealth.’” (Reported by al-Nisaa’i, 3179; Saheeh al-Jaami’,
3292).

And Allaah knows best