My husband is a strict follower of the
Shafi'ee madhab, while I prefer to choose the fatwa which my mind tells me is based on
stronger daleel no matter what the origin of the school is, whenever there is a difference
between the well-known madhabs. My husband tells me that I don't have the right to do this
since I am not a scholar myself. Is he right?
Please reply if at all possible, because there has been a lot of tension
in my household because of this.
Praise be to Allaah.
In order to answer this question, we must shed light on
we must point out the importance of avoiding sectarianism in following
any school of thought, whether it has to do with fiqh, thought or anything else. We should
get into the habit of following the Qur’aan and Sunnah and letting them be our guide.
There is such a thing as the inclination to follow one of the opinions
of the fuqaha’, not on the basis of Tarjeeh (weighing and comparing evidence) but
because of a desire to follow the easiest way or because it suits one's own desires. A
person may find some justification for motives that he thinks are correct, and does not
realize they are wrong until later on. Therefore one should only select or give preference
to an opinion either by studying the matter and examining the evidence and proofs offered
by all sides, which should be done by one who has sound knowledge, or else by following a
scholar who is well known to be knowledgeable, religious, pious and righteous, so that one
feels confident of his sincerity and wide knowledge.
Keeping the peace in the marital home is more important than disputing
as to whose opinion or madhhab should prevail, so long as the issue in question is one in
which differences of opinion are permissible and every opinion has some grounds for
validity. At the same time, it should be pointed out to the husband, gently and calmly,
that it is important to base one’s opinions on sound evidence, and that not every
scholarly opinion or madhhab is always correct. The scholars themselves said that their
opinions should be discounted if they contradicted well known evidence, as
al-Shaafa’i said: “If my opinion contradicts a hadeeth of the Messenger of
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), cast it aside (lit. throw it against
If you and your husband are not students of sharee’ah with a firm
grounding of knowledge, then you have to refer to one of the scholars and follow his
opinions. If you agree on a scholar you can both refer to him, and if your husband chooses
someone according to what he thinks is best and you choose someone else, there is nothing
wrong with that. Each of you can follow his or her scholar in matters that do not affect
the other, but in matters where the husband has authority or responsibility, the opinion
of the scholar whom your husband is following should prevail. And Allaah knows best.